Text Tuesday: What I’d tell my teenage self

Text Tuesday: What I’d tell my teenage self

I had a girl email me last week about how she had received one of The Giving Keys that I had worn on the blog a few weeks ago. She was a girl in high school and as we emailed back a forth a few times, I realized that many of her daily teenage struggles were ones that we all seem to go through. Then, I started thinking about what I would tell my teenage self if I could go back in time. Trust me, there are way more than 10 but I’ll leave you with my top picks for now.

1.Stop comparing your life to the story of how things “should be.”
It isn’t you.

2. Learn how to deal with people not meeting your expectations.
Lowering your expectations of others will allow you to accept the flaws that each and every person has and enjoy them for who they are.  This is a lesson that I learned my second year of teaching. Even when certain students made me so frustrated, I found that when I waited them out, I eventually saw that they had a good side. I just had to wait for it to come out.

3. Allow yourself to be uncomfortable sometimes.
People like to go to great lengths to avoid situations that make them uncomfortable and I am a repeat offender of that. I need to Rock the status quo. Take some risks. The odds are better than you think.

4. Remind yourself that you are just fine.
Having some anxiety is fine. Having moments of sadness, anger, and confusion are fine. Feeling uncertain is fine. It is natural to feel like sometimes you are suffering. Be calm.  It’s okay when everything sucks. It means you’re somewhere.You are fine.

5. Not everyone is going to like you.
It’s normal to want the people around you to like you. Even if you are a people pleaser, I’m sure you can relate to at least wanting to be well-liked. I’ve learned that it is a good thing if there are some people who don’t agree or accept me. It means that I am not always trying to “please my audience” which becomes such a burden. I am a good person and I do not need to try and reassure other people of that. I like me and that is all that matters.

6. Don’t let go too soon but don’t hang on too long.
….in relationships.

7. Forgiveness is mandatory and apologize when you screw up.
When you forgive, you love. When you learn to apologize and focus on other people good stuff has a way of happening.

8. Sometimes God is silent on purpose.

There’s not much trust required if someone stands beside you coaching you every step of the way.  God may decide to take his hand off the bike, so to speak, to see if we remember what we’ve learned from him and force us to realize that he has been at work the whole time. If you let God’s silence do its work, you will come out stronger than ever.

9. It takes time to discover your strengths and passions.

There are things you do because they feel right  and they may make no money but those are the true reasons why you are here and that takes time. When you find what your passion is, keep away from people who try to belittle it. If you surround yourself with really great people, they will make you feel like you can be great too!

10. Never underestimate the love your family has for you.

Throughout the hardships that I have had in my life, I never would have made it through without knowing that my family was walking along next to me and at times, carrying me through it. The members of my family are truly my soul mates and my angels.

10. Tell the truth….always.





  1. June 3, 2014 / 6:28 am

    What an amazing post! I agree with everything. The ones that strike a chord with me are learning to deal when people don’t meet my expectations and sometimes God is silent on purpose. God does have a plan and we just have to trust Him. Thanks so much for sharing this.


    • Kristi
      June 4, 2014 / 7:35 pm

      Thanks Katherine! I still struggle with all of them but I thought I would write them down as a constant reminder!

    • Kristi
      June 4, 2014 / 7:36 pm

      Thanks dear!

  2. Gemma
    June 3, 2014 / 8:39 am

    I love this post!! So many of those ring true with me too!

    • Kristi
      June 4, 2014 / 7:36 pm


  3. June 3, 2014 / 8:55 am

    Love these! They are great motto’s to live by at any age!

    • Kristi
      June 4, 2014 / 7:36 pm

      Thanks Chrissy:)

  4. June 3, 2014 / 12:33 pm

    I love this, it’s something every one of use needs to hear.

    • Kristi
      June 4, 2014 / 7:36 pm

      Thanks Andrea!

  5. June 3, 2014 / 12:34 pm

    This is such an amazing post that I think everyone needs to read! Thanks so much for sharing <3

    • Kristi
      June 4, 2014 / 7:37 pm

      Thanks Mana!

  6. June 3, 2014 / 12:35 pm

    Perfect timing for me to read this today – lots of great advice, and you’re right about not comparing yourself! Thanks for sharing, I needed this!

  7. Lauren
    June 3, 2014 / 12:37 pm

    Great post – thanks for sharing! All women need to see and be reminded of these! May I ask who the boys are in the pictures? past Boyfriends?

    • Kristi
      June 4, 2014 / 7:37 pm

      Thanks Lauren for stopping by. Some of them may be past boyfriends:)

  8. June 3, 2014 / 12:38 pm

    First time commenter and I have to say I Love the advice you give out on your blog! I feel like we relate in so many ways, and it’s nice knowing that sometimes someone feels the same way as me.

    • Kristi
      June 4, 2014 / 7:37 pm

      I love hearing from girls that feel like they can relate too!

  9. Renee
    June 3, 2014 / 12:44 pm

    Amazing post. Thank you.

    • Kristi
      June 4, 2014 / 7:38 pm

      Thanks Courtney! Your readers are lucky they get a Tory Burch giveaway:)

    • Kristi
      June 4, 2014 / 7:39 pm

      Thanks Carolyn! I love your blog name:)

  10. Shelby
    June 3, 2014 / 9:00 pm

    Loved this post! I’m graduating high school in a few weeks, and I’m really starting to see the transition in myself as I prepare for college. I think we learn most about ourselves as we reflect on our past and who we are and who we want to be.

    • Kristi
      June 4, 2014 / 7:40 pm

      I completely agree with you! Congratulations on graduating high school! You have so many exciting times ahead:)

  11. Jaime
    June 3, 2014 / 9:01 pm

    This couldn’t have come at a better time for me. Thanks Kristi, truly inspiring.

    • Kristi
      June 4, 2014 / 7:41 pm

      I am so glad!

  12. June 3, 2014 / 9:02 pm

    Kristi you are such an inspiration. Being able to reflect on yourself is such a good attribute! Enjoy the summer and remember to enjoy it!

    • Kristi
      June 4, 2014 / 7:40 pm

      Thanks Farrah for the kind words:)

  13. June 3, 2014 / 9:04 pm

    What a beautiful post, Kristi! This resonates a lot with the advice you gave me by email, for which I am still grateful.

    • Kristi
      June 4, 2014 / 7:41 pm

      Thanks Rachel! Email me anytime:)

  14. June 3, 2014 / 9:07 pm

    Just this Sunday, during the church sermon, my pastor was explaining the same thing about when God is silent, he is testing you to see if you are following his word.

    I agree with Lauren above- who are the boys:)?

  15. June 5, 2014 / 12:52 pm

    Beautiful! And so true. Especially love the part about forgiveness!

    Simply Cydney

  16. June 9, 2014 / 7:23 am

    Love this list! Relevant for many times in life and right now I needed the reminder about holding on and that God has this. The holding on and letting go applies to more than just romantic relationships- work, friendships, commitments. Happy Summer!!!

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