I had a girl email me last week about how she had received one of The Giving Keys that I had worn on the blog a few weeks ago. She was a girl in high school and as we emailed back a forth a few times, I realized that many of her daily teenage struggles were ones that we all seem to go through. Then, I started thinking about what I would tell my teenage self if I could go back in time. Trust me, there are way more than 10 but I’ll leave you with my top picks for now.
1.Stop comparing your life to the story of how things “should be.”
It isn’t you.
2. Learn how to deal with people not meeting your expectations.
Lowering your expectations of others will allow you to accept the flaws that each and every person has and enjoy them for who they are. This is a lesson that I learned my second year of teaching. Even when certain students made me so frustrated, I found that when I waited them out, I eventually saw that they had a good side. I just had to wait for it to come out.
3. Allow yourself to be uncomfortable sometimes.
People like to go to great lengths to avoid situations that make them uncomfortable and I am a repeat offender of that. I need to Rock the status quo. Take some risks. The odds are better than you think.
4. Remind yourself that you are just fine.
Having some anxiety is fine. Having moments of sadness, anger, and confusion are fine. Feeling uncertain is fine. It is natural to feel like sometimes you are suffering. Be calm. It’s okay when everything sucks. It means you’re somewhere.You are fine.
5. Not everyone is going to like you.
It’s normal to want the people around you to like you. Even if you are a people pleaser, I’m sure you can relate to at least wanting to be well-liked. I’ve learned that it is a good thing if there are some people who don’t agree or accept me. It means that I am not always trying to “please my audience” which becomes such a burden. I am a good person and I do not need to try and reassure other people of that. I like me and that is all that matters.
6. Don’t let go too soon but don’t hang on too long.
7. Forgiveness is mandatory and apologize when you screw up.
When you forgive, you love. When you learn to apologize and focus on other people good stuff has a way of happening.
8. Sometimes God is silent on purpose.
There’s not much trust required if someone stands beside you coaching you every step of the way. God may decide to take his hand off the bike, so to speak, to see if we remember what we’ve learned from him and force us to realize that he has been at work the whole time. If you let God’s silence do its work, you will come out stronger than ever.
9. It takes time to discover your strengths and passions.
There are things you do because they feel right and they may make no money but those are the true reasons why you are here and that takes time. When you find what your passion is, keep away from people who try to belittle it. If you surround yourself with really great people, they will make you feel like you can be great too!
10. Never underestimate the love your family has for you.
Throughout the hardships that I have had in my life, I never would have made it through without knowing that my family was walking along next to me and at times, carrying me through it. The members of my family are truly my soul mates and my angels.
10. Tell the truth….always.